Every year, millions of Americans get married and pledge to spend the rest of their lives together, through thick and thin. Unfortunately, marriages often go through some rough patches from time to time. This can be due to arguments, the loss of that “spark” or any number of other potential issues.
Thankfully, a marriage that is in a bit of a tough place isn’t doomed to fail. There are several different tips and hacks that can improve a marriage and help keep things positive. This article is going to go over a few of them.
Spend Quality Time Together
One of the most important things when it comes to improving your marriage is to actually spend quality time together. While most couples will go to bed near the same time and eat together, and maybe watch the odd TV show together, that isn’t exactly quality time. Even though you live together, you should be sure to make time for one another. This isn’t always easy but is very important.
Of course, some of this quality time should also be of the intimate variety in most healthy marriages. Unfortunately, if you can’t stand to cuddle, relax or be intimate in bed together because of an uncomfortable mattress, it can really kill the mood. Be sure to check out this link to make sure the bed you have is suitable not only for sleep but also for the other things you might do: The 10 Best Mattresses for Sex, According to Expert Reviews | Health.com
If you find your marriage teetering a little bit for one reason or another, it is important to start early when it comes to improving it. It can be awkward, but bringing potential issues into the limelight early is better than letting them stew and get worse over the many days, months or even years.
If you wait until your marriage is full of too many issues before you start addressing them and improving, it might be too late. Whether the solution is therapy, or simply airing things out and making changes, it is better to deal with problems earlier rather than later.
Communication is important in every relationship, but especially in a marriage. You need to be able to talk about everything from the good times and experiences to the bad ones. If something is bugging you, be sure to bring it up and not let it sit and simmer. You should also encourage your spouse to do the same.
Unfortunately, not every individual or couple is great at communicating. This can lead to the slow deterioration of a marriage, sometimes without one side even knowing that something is wrong at all. Talking about issues or things you don’t like is awkward and difficult, but is crucial to improving your marriage and keeping it stable.
Don’t “Keep Score”
A problem that can often lead to many problems in a marriage or relationship is the idea of “keeping score”. This is when couples will try to keep everything perfectly equal in terms of how much they spend on each other, who buys what and how much work gets done. This is generally unhealthy for a relationship and there are many reasons to stop keeping score.
It can be hard to track, it can make your relationship feel like a competition and can waste a lot of time and energy on something that really doesn’t matter. A good way to stop keeping score is to start thinking of yourselves as one, instead of two. If you consider money as “our money”, it will stop you from worrying about who bought the coffees last or whose turn it is to pay the pizza delivery guy.
Of course, try to keep things as fair as possible if that’s what you want, but trying to keep everything perfectly in line and keeping your “scores” even, can often do more harm than good.
Be Able to Admit Wrongdoings and Apologize
No one likes to admit they are wrong. However, we all are from time to time. While some people can openly admit they are wrong and own up to wrongdoings, this isn’t always the case. There are plenty of people who think they do no wrong and are stubborn enough to never apologize. These people can be hard to have a good relationship with. If you or your spouse is like this, you need to find ways to stop this toxic behaviour.
Sure, no one likes being wrong. But admitting it is healthier and will have a net positive result in your relationship. On the other hand, you also need to be willing to forgive the wrongdoings of your partner. If they do something wrong and apologize, you need to be willing to accept it (in most cases) and not harbour a grudge over something small.
Easy Ways to Improve Your Marriage
Marriage isn’t always easy, and some marriages find themselves in places of struggle. But by following the tips and hacks outlined in this article, we are confident you can improve the quality of your marriage to the one you love most.